“What’s wrong with me?”
You’re miserable because you’ve been in a long-term relationship with your misery.
You’ve been taught from an early age that misery is what you should feel most of the time. Pain has been instilled in you by your parents, siblings, culture, peers, and religions.
If you’re too joyful, you’ll arouse resentment from others around you. People will think you’re weird if you laugh too loud. Don’t be too self-conscious about your appearance, your achievements, or your victories; you’ll come out as arrogant.
You won’t be liked if you don’t succeed. If you’re joyful for “no good reason,” you’re considered a crazy person.
You’ve been taught that it’s better to put your head down, sulk around, and grumble like everyone else than it is to open yourself up to the happiness that lies within.
Knowing that most individuals use their communication to complain and gossip, it’s simple to desire to avoid engaging in that type of communication.
Take a deep breath and recall that your natural emotional state is one of contentment.
If you were a factory-made robot, happiness would be your default state. Most of the time, that’s how you’re supposed to be. To be miserable necessitates effort.
To be miserable requires effort, why do we continue in this manner? For two reasons:
You’ve seen time and time again that when you’re in a bad mood, people pay more attention to you
As a result, others feel sorry for you. You’re able to tap into the life force of others. There is an opportunity to benefit from a false sense of importance.
You can avoid taking personal responsibility for your life this way
The more people feel sorry for you, the less likely it is that you’ll actually do anything about it.
In order to make adjustments, you’ll have to put up with a lot of discomfort, which you don’t want to deal with. Ego says, “Better to be miserable and get all this attention poured on me and not have to change my life. I’ll simply stay in this filthy, joy-eroding pit that I’ve dug for myself and let it consume me. “This will be a lot easier.”
Despite this, it isn’t. Being miserable requires far more effort than waking up and realising that your mind is your only barrier to happiness.
What are your plans for all of this now? How can you learn to be content rather than depressed?
Keep in mind that 99 percent of your own sorrow is self-created.
Relax and let go of the past. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, take a few deep breaths to calm yourself down. Then, take a moment to reflect on how good things are going in your life. Take action if you’re aware of any areas of your life that aren’t working as they should.
Please don’t take my words for truth. I’m not encouraging you to pretend everything’s fine when you’re truly experiencing real, on-the-ground agony. Instead, I advocate letting go of misery as a way of life and doing whatever it takes to find your true sense of contentment.
You already have everything you need to succeed. Some of them might make you hesitant to use them. If you do, you may be afraid of losing a loved one. Even if you don’t want to use them, they’re there for the taking.
Whenever you’re not sure if something is beneficial or bad for you, take a look in the mirror.
Your brain is acting like a frightened fool. All it accomplishes is to arouse scepticism. That’s what it’s there to do, and it does it well. It’s all in your head, but trust your gut. So, ask yourself. The answer is already known.